Stephen Grosz has been a psychoanalyst for the past 30 years and spent more than 60,000 hours with patients spanning children, adolescents, adults and the elderly. In his book The Examined Life Grosz draws short, vivid stories from his 30-year practice in order to track the collaborative journey of therapist and patient as they uncover the hidden feelings behind ordinary behaviour.

All change involves loss. To change and become a new person or do a new thing you have to give up something and we're reluctant to do that, we want to hold on to the past and have the new thing in the future.